Sharing For The Greater Good

I was browsing through the updates on various statuses and comments people had posted on a social networking site I am a member of this morning when I started to really think about the context of them all and how such things relate to the people and their views on life. For instance, I have a cousin in Ontario who is always posting things that make me laugh. They are often very sarcastic or ironic but always done through the medium of humor. I actually look forward to logging into the site to see what she has posted because I can always count on her status's to put a smile on my face, no matter how difficult or frustrating my day has been. Now, she is not the only one of my friends or family members that do this, for I have many which do, but I am using her as an example. Then there are the ones who are always posting things that are inspirational in nature. I am one such person as is my husband. Everyday when I log onto the site I go on the hunt for some moving quote that I can share with any who might need the inspirational messages to help them through their own difficult or frustrating days. I give great thought to the ones I choose and if even one person can change their day around and be moved by a message I have shared that day then I am truly blessed to have been instrumental in that process. These motivational or inspirational messages are something I personally feel should be shared. Anything that can make a person laugh, think in a new positive way or help them to feel spectacular or even just good about themselves or their abilities should be passed on and shared with the world around them. Then there are those who are lost within their own misery and although you love them to pieces, the things they decide to share with the world via the net are less than optimistic, less than positive or blissful and instead make the person reading them feel heavy. These are the people I want to just reach through the screen and shake because instead of focusing on the good things that they are blessed with or have accomplished, they are stuck in a position of only seeing/feeling/being negative. I am truly sorry for every ache and pain; physical, mental or otherwise, that each of my friends or family members are going through. If I had the power to change it for them, I would in a heartbeat. But I also do not see the benefit of announcing your trials and disappointments to the world like they are some sort of badge of honor unless you are asking for some sort of help,advice or support from those people. Asking for a hand in dealing with a negative situation is very commendable and takes great courage. Those are not the types of things I am speaking of here. I am talking about the people who never have anything positive to say about themselves or their lives and don't do anything to change it.  Everyone has challenges and issues. Some have more than others. No one on the planet is exempt. Showing everyone how negative you feel about your life, choices or circumstances is not going to help you to move forward and out of them. It just isn't. In fact, it will do just the opposite because no matter how much a person loves another person, they don't want to constantly be surrounded by another person's negativity because it just brings them down. Personally, I do not want to be the one who has caused my friends and family members to feel negative in any sort of fashion. I want to be the person that makes them feel good about themselves or gives them a reason to smile or laugh. This is the kind of thing we should all be looking to do when we are on these social sites. We should be trying to share our lives, not our little deaths. We should be hoping to share a laugh, a joke or some hilarious moment and not be hoping that someone will feel pity on us because our choices have left us in a less than perfect situation. We are living the lives we have chosen to live and if we are not happy with that, then we should work on changing it and not expect others to do it for us or coddle us for our errs in judgement. How hard would it really be to. instead of posting something along the lines of " life sucks because of ........", we would post " Life is awesome because of.....". I am sure every person can find one small thing that is good about their lives to concentrate on and just the act of focusing on that instead of the negative, has the power to change the way we view everything in our lives. I know that I would much rather read the latter than the former and I know that I am also trying very hard to be the person who posts the latter when I am feeling the former because it helps me to see things in a more positive light. If you are troubled, feeling down, isolated and need a pick me up, need to know that others care about you, then I am there to do my best to give you that. However, in the end, it is up to us. We may need a helping hand to stand, but we can begin to rise all on our own by how we approach each other and each day. I hope these words too have helped someone to see their own potential. Sometimes it is hard to hear such truths but I hope all who read this know that this comes from a place of love. I just want everyone I love to be happy, to feel fulfilled and like there is nothing in this world that can stop them from achieving whatever their hearts desire. The only thing that has that power is our own unwillingness to change the unhealthy habits into healthy successes. Only YOU can stop yourself. Only YOU can determine your life.
Namaste...be blessed everyone.